A DJ and former martial arts instructor has denied he ever had non-consensual sex with three women who have accused him of rape.
Key points:

  • Remzi Bektasovski is on trial in Wollongong District Court accused of sexually assaulting three women
  • The 22-year-old has pleaded not guilty to five charges and maintains he had consensual encounters with the women
  • A witness told the court that one of the alleged victims was “intimidated” by Mr Bektasovski’s “popularity”

Remzi Bektasovski is accused of sexually assaulting the three women on separate occasions in 2016 and 2017.
During the fourth day of his trial in Wollongong District Court, the 22-year-old told the jury he and one of his accusers had agreed to be “friends with benefits” and engaged in consensual sex on an occasional basis.
He said he started “flirting” with one of the women on social media in 2016 before agreeing to meet her at her home in November that year.
“We had discussed on social media that we would have a friends-with-benefits-type relationship and have consensual sexual intercourse,” he told the court.
Mr Bektasovski said the pair had sex “about four times” in the same location on different occasions and “always” used a condom, which he supplied.
He told the jury he refused to be seen in public with the woman or engage in public displays of affection.
“I didn’t want anybody to think me and [the woman] were seeing each other,” he said.
He denied allegations that he kissed and touched her roughly, used dirty language or caused her bruising.
He also denied that she told him, “Stop, I don’t want this anymore” during the alleged assault.
“There is an allegation that at a later point in time she sent a message to the effect of, ‘Dude, you raped me’ did that occur?” defence barrister Matthew Johnson asked.
“No,” Mr Bektasovski replied.
Mr Bektasovski (back middle) has been supported by his family during the trial.(ABC Illawarra: Hamish Cole)
Sex was ‘consensual’
Mr Bektasovski said he met another of his alleged victims on the dating app Tinder and continued to communicate with her on Snapchat.
“She told me she wanted to meet me,” he told the jury.
“What was planned?” Mr Johnson asked.
“That I would come to her house that we would have sexual intercourse,” the accused said.
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He said they had consensual sex using a condom and later, on social media, discussed meeting up again.
“We talked about having consensual sex again,” Mr Bektasovski said.
“I do recall [we had sex] three times they occurred in her mother’s bedroom and my dad’s van.”
“Was there ever an occasion when you had non-consensual sex with [the woman]?” Mr Johnson asked.
“No,” he replied.
Mr Bektasovski denied allegations made by the woman that he asked to “grind” against her, that he was touching her, and that she had said, “I don’t want to have sex”.
He also denied a claim that he told the woman, “I knew you would enjoy it if I forced you to do it”.
When presented with telephone records from 2017, he agreed that the pair had continued to send text messages to each other for several months after the alleged incident, but said they had not had further sexual contact.
Mr Bektasovski disputes evidence given by his accusers.(ABC Illawarra: Hamish Cole)
Woman ‘quiet and withdrawn’
Earlier on Thursday the jury heard evidence from the father of one of the women, who said his “usually very bubbly and talkative” daughter was “upset and crying” when he picked her up from Mr Bektasovski’s home on the day of the alleged assault.
“I asked her what was wrong and she said it was nothing,” the man said under questioning by prosecutor Michael Fox.
“She was very hunched up against the passenger door and looking out the window.”
The man said his daughter was “quiet and withdrawn” and did not engage in much conversation in the weeks that followed.
A friend of the woman who also gave evidence on Thursday said Mr Bektasovski was “quite popular”.
“The fact that he was a martial arts teacher intimidated her,” the friend told jurors.
“I urged her to go to the police. She didn’t want to.
“She felt that she wouldn’t be believed and would be powerless due to his popularity, and she didn’t want it take up any more of her life than it already had.”
Mr Bektasovski has pleaded not guilty to five charges, including three counts of sexual intercourse without consent, aggravated sexual assault inflicting actual bodily harm and assault with act of indecency.
The trial before Judge Andrew Haesler continues.

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